If you clicked on this post in the hopes of getting a perfect solution to the problem of getting over someone, I'm afraid I have to disappoint you because I discovered that there's no dead end solution. Especially since we're all different it's kind of hard to say "You just have to do it like this and then you'll forget that person" apart from the fact that some methods might work better with certain people than with others (I hope you see the problem).

However, I thought I might share what helped me and we could do this little exchanging experiences hing where you'll tell me how you got over heartbreak or losing a friend (you might as well do this on tumblr :) ).

First things first, cut off the communication. I know this sounds harsh and it really is but nothing else will ever get you started. Block their number, unfollow them on social media. The reason why you should do this is as you will probably find yourself staring at your phone in the hopes of getting another message from that person and soon enough you'll find yourself in this never ending cycle of waiting for their message, being happy for a short time and then falling even deeper in this hole of sadness again after they have decided to stop messaging you all over again.

I've been there, too. I spent about two months chasing a ghost and unconsciously destroyed myself by doing so. So even if it hurts, please just do it. You'll look back someday and be happy that you made this choice.

What really helps getting over someone - although it is painful - is to let yourself feel the pain. You might try to tuck the pain away in the depths of your brain, building a wall around it and pretending it never even happened. It's easier that way, you tell yourself. Don't cry, you don't deserve to cry about this person, it's your own fault so you don't have the right to feel sad.

Been there, did that. First of all, a relationship going to waste is always a work of two people. Even if you assume you're guilty of the mess, there's always the other person who allowed you to feel that way. Apart from that, facing the pain benefits the way you feel emotionally eventually as you will get out of it faster. Otherwise the pain is like a ghost, randomly haunting you all over again. You'll never get a closure this way.

Most importantly, you should acknowledge that you had feelings for/really liked that person.

It just hit me yesterday (hence this post) that I was trying to deny I was ever in love with someone because it felt so far away. As a result, when I started talking to him again and old feelings started dwelling up, I was even more confused than I was before.

But maybe it all that mess in my head just came to be since I never really took care of my feelings, forgetting them all too soon.

And as soon as I realized I really had a crush on him, I started noticing that that feeling is not there anymore. I started discovering that he is not  a flawless person either, his laugh sounds weird sometimes and that touching him didn't give me the satisfaction it would have given 2016 me.

I'm not perfect either. I'm still not able to let certain people go but I'm working on it. Cause in the end, the ghosts of people that have left you stop you from truly finding (and living) a life of your own.

xxx Sarah